Like we have discussed before, there comes a time when you can no longer carry your child. They simply become too old or heavy to carry and you have to stop. It might even be causing medical issues, which can be a clear signal that your body is telling you that sadly you can’t cope any more. For every child there comes a time when longer distance carrying just isn’t feasible any more.
What are the signs?
The most common sign is that your child’s weight is simply too much for you. It becomes harder to lift them, not just for extended periods of carriage, but in general. You really begin to feel their weight in your arms and shoulders. And your carrier might feel like its cutting into you. All classic signs that that your child is too heavy for you to bear.
For some children, though, the issue isn’t their weight, but with them! Some kids simply show signs of wanting to walk. Although not terribly common, the sign that it’s time to stop carrying some children is their resistance to being carried or held. They would rather walk for themselves.
Kids in this group still get tired of walking, especially for long distances, so don’t think you need to stop completely. For this category it can be a gradual thing.
When Does This Happen?
The age and time can vary a lot between children. Some children are larger than others at the same age, and some parents can handle it better. It really depends on you and your child. For children led changes as described above, commonly there tends to be a time around the second birthday that it happens. It might be much later than this but is seldom earlier.
What Is The Next Step?
If you identify with this article then it might be time to put away your carrier, sling or wrap. If your child is the one prompting the change then its not time for a complete farewell, instead it is time to wind back their use.
Children that can’t be carried have to start learning to walk more often (assuming they can walk already). This doesn’t mean your child should walk everywhere. They can start off with short distances, or have walking supplemented by stints in a stroller. Over time, children will be able to handle more and more walking and eventually no longer need an help – from you or a stroller – at all.